In theory, maintaining a romantic relationship and a sex life is simple – and for some, it can be just as simple in practice, but it’s also very common to go through different phases. 

No matter how strong your sexual connection with your partner is, burnout can kill your sex drive and dampen the sense of intimacy in your relationship. 

Unsurprisingly, when it comes to dealing with physical, mental and emotional exhaustion, sex often goes out the window altogether – and although that’s a normal response, you don’t want it to become the norm for you. 

Burnout doesn’t have to spoil your relationship with your partner, with yourself, or with anyone else. 

Re-education is key – and the truth is, most of us have a lot to learn about the ins and outs of sex and intimacy, and after many years of study, Nicole Kammerlocher knows this better than most. 

Having completed a Masters in Community Mental Health Counseling and further training in the AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors and Therapists) Certification Program, Nicole has plenty of powerful insights on sex and intimacy to share. 

In this episode, Nicole talks to Hannah about the modern challenges facing people in loving sexual relationships, and how we can keep our bonds strong. 

So what’s this episode really about? 

  • The difference between stress and stressors, and the impact of both on our sex lives
  • Immediate actions you can take to alleviate stress  
  • What makes for effective communication around sex and boundaries with your partner 
  • How to reignite the spark after experiencing burnout 

Why you should listen 

Sex is a basic human need and a central component to most happy, healthy romantic relationships, but it can also be an incredibly complex subject – particularly once burnout enters the picture. If you have experienced (or are currently experiencing) burnout and looking for advice on maintaining your connection with your partner, this episode is for you.   


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You can quote me on that… 

“There’s no new normal to go back to – we’re trying to figure our new patterns and rewiring old behaviors.” – Hannah Austin 

“One of the most important things to address with burnout is first separating the stress from the stressor. The stress is what is happening in your body – your body really ramps up to put all your power into dealing with the stressor.” – Nicole Kammerlocher

“We are running modern software on ancient human firmware.” – Nicole Kammerlocher

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